Today, let’s think about dreams. 

As much as I feel it is so important to find gratitude in life as it currently is, I feel it equally as important to hold visions and dreams for what I’d love my future to potentially look like.  And I really believe that it doesn’t matter what your age in numbers says—if you are here, you are able to dream.  So, I’d love to invite you to do the same today, and to ask you this:  If you were to take 2 minutes today to reflect on where your life is right now and what you may envision it involving at any point in your future, what would come to your mind? 

Here’s another question, perhaps more important.  Do you know that you are worthy of your own dreams?

Yes.  Do you know that you are worthy of your own dreams?

You’re not only worthy of them.  You’re deserving of helping create them into reality.  You’re deserving of helping and of having them come true. 

That’s pretty huge.  But wait—there’s more.  ;)

Your dreams, whatever they may be and however they may change and grow over the course of your lifetime, are good enough for you.  Yes—your dreams are good enough for you!  That means that you don’t need to have anyone else’s dreams in order to give yourself permission to have your own dreams and to help them to come true. 

You have permission.  You have permission to have your own dreams, and you have permission to help them come true.   

I think so often when we think of future dreams and goals, a very common thing may often happen. 

We might very quickly go into a type of thought process that may sound a little like this: 

“Yeah, that’d be nice!  Like that’d ever happen!  Maybe if____happened first, then that could happen!  But I really doubt it!”  :)

And then we might start making a list of all of the things that could fill in the “maybe if ___ happened first” blank.  “Maybe if I got a raise.  Maybe if I won the lottery.  Maybe if I met the person of my dreams.  Maybe if an alien species decided to come to earth and turn the grass purple!”  ...Okay, maybe not that last one. ;)  But do you see how easy it is to slip into that thought process?  And do you see how easy it can be to think that in order for us to give ourselves permission to have and pursue our dreams, something outside of ourselves has to happen first? 

I know I’ve certainly done that so many times, and there are times I still do it!  My “maybe ifs” often used to revolve most around, “Maybe if ___ happened, (maybe if people understood me, if I fit in with society, if I could earn great praise from others, etc.), I’d finally feel good enough.  Then I could go and do ___!” :)   

Do you see how, in thinking in these ways, we can basically blow out our candle before we even light it?  How hard or sometimes impossible can it be to rely on something else happening first, before we really consider our own dreams?

Here’s why I think this can happen.  In society, we can often be conditioned to want certain things.  We can generally be conditioned to want lots of money, a youthful appearance, lots of possessions, lots of experiences, and perhaps a lot of attention.  We may be conditioned this way because the people who we often view as most powerful in society can appear to have those things. 

As a society, in general we may view people like celebrities, politicians, and CEOs of huge companies in this way.  We look to them, see that they seem to have money, youth, stuff, attention, and/or experience opportunities, and we may learn to value those things.  We might think that because we may not have some or all of those things, the way to get them is only by having something outside of ourselves happen first.  We might also think that because others seem to have some or all of those coveted things, they have to be happy. 

Yet, so often, we see that the reverse is true.  We see a lot of drama, a lot of scandal, and a lot of hardship in many of these people’s lives, and they don’t always seem happy.  Maybe it doesn’t make sense to us.  They have everything they could ever want in order to be happy.  So why are they not? 

As a society, we may value those qualities as the greatest indicators of happiness, yet we see how often they don’t bring true happiness.  We may get so confused!  Do you see how this can create such inner conflict within our hearts and minds?!        

So what do we do about it?  And what does this have to do with our own dreams? 

Here’s one thing we can do.  It may not be easy in the eyes of society.  It may feel uncomfortable, especially at first if we’re not used to doing it.  And yes, it does take courage.  But we have more than enough courage inside of ourselves to begin to do it.  :)

Deep within each of our hearts, there lies a still, small voice.  This voice is quiet and so very gentle.  If we take time and get quiet even for a few minutes every day, we can begin to notice its presence.  We can even begin to hear it.  We don’t necessarily have to meditate or be in total silence to hear it, although we may certainly choose to if we wish to.  But it really does help if we can tune out the noises of the world for just a few minutes.  Even if it means going into our bathroom and locking the door...and not taking any electronic devices in with us!  ;) 

When we notice this still, small voice, it may show up in different ways.  It may show up actually as a voice.  It may show up as a vision for ourselves and our future.  It may show up as a gut feeling, or a knowing.  But if we pay attention long enough, that’s when we can give it a chance to show up in whatever way it may for us.  We don’t have to be psychic or have any “special” powers to access this voice.  We are each human, and therefore we are each capable of accessing it in our own unique way. 

When we can begin to tune in to this voice, this knowing, this vision, that is when some of our own deep personal truths can begin to speak to us.  We can allow ourselves to forget about society, all of its values, and at times its contradictions for at least a little while, and we can start hearing what our own still, small voice might say.

Maybe it says, “In this life, in this one and only life I’m living as me, here on this amazing planet, I want to ___.” 

Maybe it wants to make something.  Maybe it wants to have some great experiences.  Maybe it wants to master a lifelong goal or desire you’ve always had. 

Maybe it wants to help try to influence the world or others in some kind of particular way.  Or maybe it doesn’t.  Maybe it wants a quiet life, filled with things that matter the most to you.  Maybe it wants to spend its life with a small group of people, like your family or your friends.  Maybe it wants a combination of those things.

And whatever it wants, that can be okay.  Because, since it is our still, small voice, if we are really tuned in, it comes from a very pure and good place. 

It will not want anything that would intentionally harm ourselves or anyone or anything else.

Also, it will want what exhibits the highest forms of love for ourselves and also for others.       

So yes—when we are really tuned in and are continuously growing in our understanding of the highest forms of love for ourselves and others, whatever our voice wants can be okay, no matter what size or shape its deepest desires are. 

Society also often teaches us to “dream big,” which we might sometimes translate into exactly the kind of lifestyle that celebrities and others have.  That kind of lifestyle certainly doesn’t always bring happiness, although it certainly may.  If your voice doesn’t truly want that life or lifestyle, that is okay.  And if your voice does want to be in the public eye in some way, that is also okay. 

What your voice wants is okay, no matter what others’ voices may want, or what society wants.  And what your voice wants is ultimately what can help you make your life the most meaningful—for you.  And isn’t that what we all really want?  A life that means something to us?  

Now, when you listen to this voice, it may give you ideas that you can literally make happen right away, without any extra struggle on your part.  It may also tell or show you things that are actually seeds.  They are seeds of thought and emotion.  Those seeds may even include some of those things that you might have said, “Maybe if ___ happens first” about previously.  ;) 

The truth is that at the very core of these seeds, no matter what kind of seeds they may be, there is generally something we can do quite quickly in order to make that seed begin to sprout.  For instance, maybe if my voice says I wanted to start coloring every day for 5 minutes as a way to relax, I could make sure to get a coloring book and a box of crayons at the store next time if I didn’t already have them. 

In another example, maybe if my voice says that I want to learn how to fly a plane someday, I could make sure to take 5 minutes that very day and do at least 3 Google searches about how I might even get started on such a great adventure!  With the Internet so widely available to many of us, we have so much help when it comes to finding out answers of many kinds! 

But it is at this point where it may be the easiest to go back to ignoring our inner voice and to thinking that our dreams don’t matter after all.  Why?  Because this is where the fear can kick in.  We all have it, so we may as well be honest about it.  What if we took that first step towards listening to our own voice?  Who are we to think we can even do such a thing in the first place?  What if we got super involved in going after whatever our voice wanted?  What if we really invested a lot of ourselves into it?  And what if something fell through?  Or, even more, what if we actually made it come true?  Then what? 

And the fears come flooding in! 

But here’s the thing.  Fear is going to come flooding in.  That’s a vital part of this whole process!  We are stretching our minds and hearts in wonderfully and frighteningly new ways!  So it’s totally natural for us to be terrified!  :)

But wouldn’t it actually be worse if we didn’t try? 

What if, when we got to the end of our lives, if we were fortunate enough to be able to look back on them, what if all we could think about was how we didn’t try to make that dream come true? 

What if we didn’t try to live the life that we really wanted to live? 

That, to me, is the ultimate fear—the fear of having my life pass without at least trying to help it be what I really wanted it to be.  Even if, for certain dreams, it took me some time to start feeding and watering my seeds.  And even if I ended up not succeeding at certain dreams, but yet, maybe that process led me in other great directions.  All that would matter was that I tried.  And that last question is one that I don’t want to have to wonder about if I am allowed the chance to do so.

Yes, it’s true.  Fear can sometimes motivate us in good ways, to make good change, as long as we don’t get stuck in it chronically.  Fear doesn’t always have to be a horrible thing.  But that can be the topic of another reflection.  ;) 

So on that note, I am going to repeat to you what I’ve said in the beginning of this reflection.  Because I think it is that important.  :)

Do you know that you are worthy of your own dreams?

You’re not only worthy of them.  You’re deserving of helping create them into reality.  You’re deserving of helping and of having them come true. 

That’s pretty huge.  But wait—there’s more.

Your dreams, whatever they may be and however they may change and grow over the course of your lifetime, are good enough for you.  Yes—your dreams are good enough for you!  That means that you don’t need to have anyone else’s dreams in order to give yourself permission to have your own dreams and to help them to come true. 

You have permission.  You have permission to have your own dreams, and you have permission to help them come true.  

Most of all, you have the permission—and the courage, yes you do—to start a new “Maybe if” sentence.  It can start like this:  “Maybe if I did this, then ______ could happen.”   :)   

And don’t try to be tricky on me and say, “Maybe if I had the courage, then ___ could happen!”  ;) 

You have the power.  And you have the courage.  It is already yours. 

Here’s your challenge for this week:  Take 2 minutes, sometime, somewhere, somehow this week.  Take 2 minutes of quiet.  And start to listen for, see, or feel that still, small voice that you have inside of you.  What dreams and seeds does it have to share with you? 

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